HomeMaking: Where men dwell and women decorate
About two years ago, I came up with a brilliant idea.
My wife worked at home as a journalist, but her home office was in a cramped little room at the back of our house. It was cold in the winter, hot in the summer and too close to kids, distractions and, as she pointed out, me.
We had an old detached garage, however, at the back of our property. The garage was built somewhere around 1920 to hold a Model T, and while we could get our modern, full-sized family car inside if we inched forward with care, we couldn’t open the doors once we did so. Unless we were willing to go out and get a Model T, it was useless as a garage.
I spent the next year-and-a-half ripping apart the garage and rebuilding it as an office studio, with French doors, heated floors, even a minibar alcove in the back. I put in high-speed Internet, two phone lines and cable TV.
Whenever we’d have guests over, they’d peer out the windows and ask for a tour of the little place out back. It was more comfortable, and more impressive, than our actual house.
It was just about the moment that I was putting the last nail in place on a piece of trim, after 18 months of plodding, sometimes discouraging labor, that my wife announced that she’d be working full time, at an actual office with real co-workers, and that she wouldn’t need the home office anymore.
At first I stared in disbelief, then shock, then anger, then tears. I went through all 12 stages of grief over pointless home renovation in about 60 seconds.
Then it hit me. For months, every guy I’d shown the garage to had remarked what a perfect male getaway it would make. You know, a “Man Cave.”
Tags: cave, man
April 26th, 2008 at 8:50 am
Essentially women are required to be perfect and men aren’t allowed to be.
April 26th, 2008 at 9:40 am
Pack your bags as well, men, and head to California! We “unmarried San Francisco men” welcome you with open arms!
April 26th, 2008 at 10:31 am
Because, being a guy, you generally go where guys are more likely to go.
April 26th, 2008 at 11:21 am
For several of those cities I would say gay men play a part.. Seattle, SanFran, Houston, at least. Of course, that means they aren’t “excess”.
April 26th, 2008 at 12:12 pm
This is brilliant:”Many of these guys would be living happily as husbands and fathers if they had taken the plunge. But they haven’t. So what’s the answer? Become more hard-boiled and accept that, in return for children, we will have to make do with someone Only OK?”So it is reasonable for you to not marry someone who is “Only OK” - but if he refuses to marry you for the same reason, he’s a “Man-Boy”?
April 26th, 2008 at 1:02 pm
[citation needed]Edit: I don’t doubt that more men die from heart disease than women. But I can’t imagine that the reason for this is men being larger than women.I might be wrong though.
April 26th, 2008 at 1:53 pm
this coming from a guy with the username ‘FatPhil’?
April 26th, 2008 at 2:44 pm
Well, I’m originally from LA (30..ehem..years) now happily here in Melbourne, Australia and I can attest to the ratio back home…it was shocking. It also might explain the violent nature there. SO glad those years are over for me. Finally got out of “prison”.